Good or bad. Big or small. Everything that happens to you...
happens for a reason.
Alot of the time we ask ourselves why certain things have to happen to us, or maybe why things have to happen to other people. Sometimes we sit around wishing things would happen, but we don't put in enough effort. Sometimes we do everything in our power to make things happen, but they still don't And it frusterates us. Everything will fall into place, if you let it.
This doesn't mean we will sit around waiting for every good thing to happen to us. We need to put in at least some effort and stay positive for good outcomes. We need to keep hope and faith alive. We need to believe in ourselves and believe in others. We need to learn how to love ourselves before we can love others. We need to serve others. We need to be true to ourselves and learn how to trust others. We need to have faith in God, that he is there for us every step of the way and know that he is leading us on a path that will help us grow.
If there is anything that causes fear or doubt, pray. When you don't feel like praying is when you need it the most... even if you think you are perfectly happy. I bet you have felt like God gave up on you or that you are not worth his time. Guess what? He loves you. I've had these same feelings numerous times before. Want to know what caused these feelings and thoughts? Selfishness. Carelessness. Sadness. Fear. Doubt. Anger. Frusteration. God never gave up on me. He was always there and is always there.
I was just too blind in the heart to see/feel it.
This is where effort needs to take place. You are in control of your thoughts. You choose how you feel and you choose how you react to things. If you have one bad thought, even for just a second, more bad thoughts are welcome to appear. One bad thought will turn into a chain of bad thoughts if you let it. If you feed on these thoughts, you will become so used to it that you will always find yourself feeling this way. Stop these thoughts no matter how impossible it seems. With faith, anything is possible. I promise you.
These past few months have definitely been a learning experience. Ive felt plenty of stress, anxiety, fear, anger, frusteration, doubt, and helplessness. I caused alot of bad things to happen, because I didnt care enough and I lost hope. I let one bad thought take over, then I let more bad thoughts appear. I reacted to each of them the same way. I couldnt stop one thought, because I told myself I couldnt. So I believed I couldnt. It was a neverending pit of bad thoughts I dug myself into. But the ladder was right next to me the entire time. The ladder is prayer.
Another thing I learned these past few months is that you cannot let another person define who you are. This was probably the hardest thing I had to learn and I am still learning from it. You cannot make another person happy if you cannot even make yourself happy. You can care about someone and try to help them, but if you cannot take care of yourself, it will not work out in the long run. No matter how much you want it to. Your special someone will come into your life when YOU are ready for them to. If you do not feel ready, then you probably arent! Work on yourself everyday, but serve others as well. Find happiness in helping others. Find happiness in things you enjoy. Find true friends that will care for and support you. Ones that wont pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. The people that matter the most dont mind, and the people that mind dont matter. Stay close with family and go to them when you need help.
I learned that we need cannot hold onto everything. Let me put it this way...If we force things to happen and if we are making ourselves unhappy by trying to make something happen, then its probably not supposed to happen...at least for the moment or time.
Sometimes those that are dear to us are taken away from us. When this happens, its because its a lesson that needs to be learned, and God has a plan for you. If that person comes back into your life when you least expect it, its because they are suppossed to. If that person never comes back into your life, they arent suppossed to. I know that is difficult to hear, but its true. Either way, we need to live our lives and keep faith, hope...and pray.
I learned that we need to love who we love, and say that we do.:)
I learned that we cannot give up when things don't go the way we want it to. We cannot wake up one day and say we are going to start going to church and want to change our lives... when things are going good, but then turn those thoughts around when something bad happens. We need to have hope every. single. day., even on bad days. When we fall we need to pick ourselves back up and try harder next time.
I learned we can only hold on to things for so long. But then we need to move on when we are ready or when the moment is right. Sometimes we never want to let go because we want to prove something. When you can fully let go of something, no matter how much it hurts at first, you have already learned a lesson and you become stronger emotionally.
Ive learned that time heals everything.
Ive learned that you can pray for something to happen, but it probably wont happen when you want it to.
Ive learned that distance does make the heart grow fonder.
Ive learned that acting on impulse is stupid...and the consequences can last ALOT longer than the act itself... :(
Ive learned that priesthood blessings are amazing and powerful.
Ive learned that longboarding is the best thing ever invented.
Ive learned that family is VERY important. Ive learned that if mom isnt happy, then no one in the house is happy.:)
Ive learned that having a family member come home from a mission and hugging them for the first time in 2 years is the best.
Ive learned that there are gaurdian angels for us here on earth...ordinary people that help change our lives.
I Believe
'I believe that the sun shines after the rain
I believe if you don't get hurt you'll never gain
I believe in not doing things the easy way
I believe that being selfish doesn’t pay
I believe in a second chance
I believe in a life long romance
I believe there is life after death
And standing up to a life of mess
I believe in love at first sight
I believe that revenge isn’t right
I believe that first impressions last
And there is nothing better then a good laugh
I believe that dreams do come true
I believe there's destiny for me and you
I believe that good things come to those who wait
I believe love never arrives too late
I believe something good comes from something bad
I believe that for tears of happiness there are tears of sad
I believe everyone has a guardian angel
And the good you do will be rewarded well
I believe sometimes there is no explanation
I believe money can't buy people's affection
I believe you don't know what you've got until it's gone
I believe a new day arrives with every dawn
I believe a smile can be contagious
I believe in being very outrageous
I believe in living with no regrets
I believe that life is as good as it gets
I believe that the God and goddess watch over us
I believe the little things are worth the fuss
I believe you have each friend for a reason
I believe you will get punished for treason
I believe that what comes first is family
I believe we should all live in harmony
I believe in making the most of a beautiful day
And it's not the end until everything's okay
I believe absence makes the heart grow fonder
I believe you will lose if you sit and wonder
I believe every experience teaches you a lesson
And nothing cures better then an ice cream session
I believe everyone has one true love
I believe sometimes we need a little shove
I believe the whole world is a stage
I believe we only get better with age
I believe that to learn you have to live
I believe that to love someone you have to give
I believe one moment can change your life
And there's still help when you’re in strife
I believe everyone has one true friend
I believe love helps a broken heart mend
I believe in the power of a song
And things will change before too long
I believe living is the best experience
I believe in not laughing at other people’s expense
I believe it’s hard to watch a lover leave
And when they’re gone all you can do is breath
I believe to always look on the bright side
I believe that life is just one big ride
I believe when I die people will grieve
But it’s ok because I believe."
-anonymous
Watch this video...it helps me whenever im feeling down...
Let things fall into place. Live your life, try your hardest, and do the best you can. Everything will make sense and God will answer questions when you are ready for them.
-Ashley Rawson
