True Beauty....This world has distorted the definition of beauty. Every day girls, even guys are affected by the media, hollywood, magazines, movies, and even peers. Everyday the world tries to convince us that designer clothes, make up, accesories, and even diets are NEEDED to be beautiful. Beauty is more than skin deep.
Sometimes we are so caught up in looks, that we forget the true meaning of beauty. Girls can become affected at such young ages. They watch their sisters and mothers getting ready and begin to understand what it means to "put on your face in the morning." Girls at such very young ages are begining to wear makeup and spending hours in front of the mirror getting ready, and this makes me so sad...Girls shouldnt feel that way, especially the little ones..
"When a girl can wear no make up and sweats and still look good, and be happy, she is beautiful..."
If you or if you know someone who worries about their looks. Be there for them. Help them try to see themselves through the eyes of people who love them. I have been told that if you feel good, you look good, So confidence and happiness is key.
“seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7)
Nowadays, people are blowing their paychecks on things that will make them "look better" Plastic surgery, tanning, hair salons, nail salons, expensive clothing, the list goes on. I wish that people would realize that true beauty comes from within. I have met some people in my lifetime with the most caring and loving personalities, no matter what they looked like, I automatically loved being around them. Their hearts made them beautiful. Remember, you are Beautiful no matter what the world tells you. Keep your chin up and work on serving others, instead of serving yourself all the time. God made you and he loves you with all his heart. He does not want you to spend hours in front of the mirror worrying about how you look, or eating less and less everyday, because you feel fat. He wants you to look in a mirror and smile. Do not let anyone get you down. Be strong and remember that the people who mind dont matter and the people who matter don't mind.
Its important to take care of yourself as well. Make sure you get enough exercise and try eating a well balanced meal. I have found that exercise helps with feeling good about yourself, as well as eating healthier.
"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have knowndefeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."
-- Elizabeth Kubler Ross
Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes.
Our world of 'becoming beautiful' on the outside, has created many different disorders and illnesses. Body dysmorphic disorder, Bulimia, and Anorexia nervosa. We need to stop judging people, and love them for who they are as a person. When we judge harshly, we hurt people. We break hearts. We cannot judge a person. Why? Because we do not fully understand and know the person's thoughts, feelings, and know why they do the things they do. We must first get to know a persons heart. Do not judge a book by its cover. Dating people is becoming more and more difficult because we look for people we know as "beautiful" or "handsome" We don't like that guy 'because he is too short' or 'he doesnt have a great body.' We don't like that girl because 'she isnt skinny enough' or 'because her hair isn't the way we want it.' We should give everyone a chance, because you never know who will take you by suprise.
Aritcle about Woman with Body Dysmorphic Disorder on OPRAH...
Broken Reflections
'When we first met 28-year-old Jenny , she'd undergone 26 plastic surgeries. During the show, Jenny realized what everyone watching saw so clearly: She needed to get help for body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), a psychiatric problem that causes people to be preoccupied with imagined or very slight physical defects. What she didn't realize was that her story inspired others to come forward to talk about BDD.
Like Jenny, 24-year-old Taryn suffers from BDD. "When I look in the mirror," she says, "I see somebody who is non-human. I've had times when I've actually felt physically ill because I can't understand how a person could look like this, how God could create somebody that looks like this."
Fearful of peoples' stares, Taryn says her BDD makes it hard for her to leave her house. Being on The Oprah Winfrey Show today is a huge step for her. Taryn says BDD has cost her many things—a productive life, relationships and, at moments, her sense of sanity. "To hate yourself, to hate who you are—it's difficult beyond anything I can explain," she says. "Many days I would cry myself to sleep because all I wanted was to not wake up in the morning."
Dr. Katharine Phillips is the world's leading expert on body dysmorphic disorder. She's written what many call the bible of BDD, The Broken Mirror. "BDD is a serious psychiatric illness," Dr. Phillips says. "It's not vanity. And it can be absolutely tormenting."
"People with BDD see themselves differently from the way everyone else sees them," Dr. Phillips adds. And, as Jenny's ongoing struggle shows, surgery cannot cure BDD.
If you would like to read the rest of the article...http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://static.oprah.com/images/tows/200509/20050914/20050914_101_350x263.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Broken-Reflections&usg=__cSBocKwMwXMd5oUVlFWhW71aN74=&h=263&w=350&sz=34&hl=en&start=15&sig2=dsyUgvTE6uUDkkQMgiM6sw&um=1&itbs=1&tbnid=zKnZd0avyT-bTM:&tbnh=90&tbnw=120&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dbody%2Bdysmorphic%2Bdisorder%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26tbs%3Disch:1&ei=evzTS6npE5f8swPz5NTECQ
According to international study commissioned by Dove, by the age 12 most girls have seen around 77,500 ads. Researchers questioned 2,000 girls from the UK and the US aged between 10 and 14 and found out that as much as 77 percent of them described themselves in negative terms. Many said they consider themselves ugly, fat and upset when comparing themselves with attractive images shown in advertisements.
The study found the link between the prevalence of beautiful images in media and increasing number of teenagers having low self-esteem. One 14-year-old girl wrote that images in magazines make her feel upset because she knows she could never be that beautiful.
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When I went to Diamond Ranch Academy, (youth treatment center) the girls werent allowed to wear make up and we werent allowed to straighten or even curl our hair. Everybody dressed the same, so we had to learn how to love ourselves from within. We didn't compare ourselves because there was no need to. The nine month experience has helped me learn how to love myself and care for myself. To be honset, after the treatment center, there have been days where I felt not good enough or not pretty enough, but thats because I let other poeple get to me. I began believing other people, and I remember a few times, I would be almost in tears when getting ready. I wanted to give up trying, because i didnt feel beautiful enough to be seen in public. Every girl is beautiful in her own unique way. People who can look past your flaws, are the people who truely love you, and thats all that matters.
True beauty is the heart, not the physical part....Remember that.
