A hard topic for most of us, but a topic that should be talked about. Why? Because sex can either make or break a relationship. Sometimes, we can save the relationship, but after we've experienced something so physical with a partner, its impossible to go back. Nothing will ever be the same with that person.
We all wonder what it's like, and we all think about it sometimes. Sex can wait. It should be with someone you truely are in love with and care about deeply. Better yet, wait until you are married, because it is that much more special when you have it with someone you know you love. You will be much more happier and comfortable when you are married. Sex is a blessing from God, and he gave it to us so we can share something special with our partner. It shouldnt be used for anything less. Sex for fun, rape, or just out of curiousity won't do us any good. It can just make things worse, and most of us end up regretting the first time we have sex with someone we werent in love with.
Sex before a emotional connection...
So you really like someone, but you haven't really built anything to fall back on. The physical part of the relationship is good, but it should be taken slow. Actually WORK on building up a relationship. Communication is key. Share with eachother your thoughts and feelings. Talk about your past (if you're comfortable with it.) Do anything to get to know that person, like the back of your hand. When you have sex before you really get to know someone, it only causes both of you to become more distant and it will scare both of you. You will regret it and wish you could just rewind. Like I said, nothing will ever be the same with that person. If the relationship doesn't end right then and there, it will sooner or later. Or, the relationship will not be as healthy as it could be. It will take alot of time and patience to get the relationship back into the safe zone. THAT IS WHY YOU SHOULD WAIT IN THE FIRST PLACE!!! It should only happen when both of you truely feel ready for it. You should not pressure your girlfriend/boyfriend/partner into having sex. If they do, there's the read flag and if they cannot respect your decision, they won't respect you either.
Sex for fun...out of curiousity...
Maybe you enjoy it and don't really care who it's with, as long as you get laid. Maybe you should rethink what you are doing. Sure, It may be fun at the time, but think of all the risks you are taking when you are doing it with someone you barely even know or many different people. There are STD's, and if you are the person thinking it will never happen to you, guess again. Another risk is getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant. What are you going to do after that? Marry someone you barely know because you got pregnant? Abortion, killing an innocent baby just because of one simple action? Putting your baby up for adoption? Never talking to the person ever again just because of the pregnancy? All of these are questions we all think about and wonder.
-- ASHA. Sexually Transmitted Diseases in America: How Many Cases and at What Cost?
•More than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime.
•More than $8 billion is spent each year to diagnose and treat STDs/STIs and their complications. This figure does not include HIV.
•Each year, one in four teens contracts an STD/STI.
•One in two sexually active persons will contact an STD/STI by age 25.
•One out of 20 people in the United States will get infected with hepatitis B (HBV) some time during their lives. Hepatitis B is 100 times more infectious than HIV.
•It is estimated that as many as one in five Americans have genital herpes, a lifelong (but manageable) infection, yet up to 90 percent of those with herpes are unaware they have it.
•With more than 50 million adults in the US with genital herpes and up to 1.6 million new infections each year, some estimates suggest that by 2025 up to 40% of all men and half of all women could be infected.
•Over 6 million people acquire HPV each year, and by age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection. Most people with HPV do not develop symptoms. Some researchers believe that HPV infections may self-resolve and may not be lifelong like herpes.
•Each year, there are almost 3 million new cases of chlamydia, many ofwhich are in adolescents and young adults. The CDC recommends that sexually active females 25 and under should be screened at least once a year for chlamydia, even if no symptoms are present.
•At least 15 percent of all American women who are infertile can attribute it to tubal damage caused by pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) , the result of an untreated STD. Consistent condom use reduces the risk of recurrent PID and related complications: significantly, women who reported regular use of condoms in one study were 60 percent less likely to become infertile.
•Consistent condom use provides substantial protection against the acquisition of many STDs, including statistically significant reduction of risk against HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, and syphilis.
Rape..
Are you a victim of rape? Don't worry everything will be okay, even if it seems like you're world is crashing down and you think you will never get close to another person ever again. Don't let it affect your life to the point you don't care anymore or you can barely funtion on a day to day basis. So many people love you so talk to someone about it. There are many people out there that will help you through this hard time. Revenge is never the answer. You may hate the person who did this to you, but like I talked about in an earlier post, Grudges will not help you physically and emotionally. Do yourself a favor and forgive. Even if it takes time. Maybe you're a girl and got pregnant from the rape. Well, don't do anything rash and kill your baby (THINK ABOUT IT) or EVEN YOURSELF. Yes, Girls do get depressed because of unwanted pregnancies. Once again, talk to someone about your thoughts and feelings. You will get through everything if you just keep your head up, i promise.
