Fear is something most of us struggle with. Whether its A fear of heights, family, school, a certain person, or relationships. We absolutely cannot hold back and let fear stop us from being who we are. We need to push forward and have faith that we can overcome our fears. Dont let ANYTHING stop you from getting what you want in life. No matter what the world tells you, you can do almost anything you put your mind and heart to. If you believe you can or cant do something, then you are probably right. Have faith and believe in yourself.
Ready To love Again-Lady Antebellum
Seems I was walking in the wrong direction
I barely recognized my own reflection, no
Scared of love, but scared of life alone
Seems I've been playin' on the safe side baby
Building walls around my heart to save me, oh
But it's time for me to let it go.
Yeah, I'm ready to feel now
No longer am I afraid of the fall down
It must be time to move on now
Without the fear of how it might end
I guess I'm ready to love again.
Just when you think that love will never find you
You run away but still it's right behind you, oh
It's just something that we can't control
Yeah, I'm ready to feel now
No longer am I afraid of the fall down
It must be time to move on now
Without the fear of how it might end
I guess I'm ready to love again.
So come and find me
I'll be waiting up for you
I'll be holding out for you tonight
Yeah, I'm ready to feel now
No longer am I afraid of the fall down
It must be time to move on now
Without the fear of how it might end
I guess I'm ready, ready to love again
At first, What you are most afraid of can take control of your life. Its overwhelming. Dont let it control your thoughts. If you let it control you, You will never be happy. We hold back because we are afraid of rejection or failure. We believe, if we dont succeed in everything we do, we will never get what we want. We listen to what everyone else tells us, that we dont know how to overcome fear on our own. We depend so much on other people to hold our hands and help us defeat it. Its always nice to have support from friends and family, but if we count on them for everything, how will we ever get through the trails and tribulations of life if we arent strong enough to get through it ourselves?
When we are little, we had our mothers and fathers to help defeat our fears. We didn't know better, of course. We cried to get their attention. We Hugged them when we were scared. I have learned that How you treat your child in their younger years, affects them when they grow up. Love and support is what every child needs to help them survive the real world when they grow. When we are old enough to take care of ourselves, we learn from our parents examples. We observe our parents when we are little. We watch them take care of themselves, eachother and us. this is how we gain knowledge of strengths and weaknesses. Parenting can affect how a child faces their fears in the future.
Many other things can cause fear. Fear is the root of any obstacle. If we are afraid of something, then the obstacle "appears" tougher than it actually is to someone. If we have no fear for the obstacle, Then it is alot easier to overcome, because we believe we can overcome it. We pull the obstacle by the root. We cant pull it from the stem, because if we do, (meaning we have little faith that we can overcome the fear) then the obstacle can come right back in our future when we are least expecting it. Fear is like a weed in the ground. If we keep watering the weed with hopelessness and weakness, then the weed of fear grows and grows over time. Sometimes we will "pull the weed by the stem" Which is kind of like attempting to overcome the fear, but we dont have enough faith to get rid of it completely. We need to "pull the weed by the root," so it stops taking control of our lives and so it doesnt bother us in the future. An example of this would be: Lets say you are afraid of confronting people. You have very little faith in yourself and believe that you will say something wrong and make things worse. If you believe this, then you probably will. But, You dont fully avoid confrontment, so you "pull the obstacle by its stem." Believe in yourself!! Have faith with all your heart and "pull the obstacle by the root." Don't leave anything left for the fear to grow in the future.
"And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you."
-Matt. 17: 20
I wrote a blog on faith awhile back...read that if you want to know more about faith. Faith can move mountains, I am sure of that.
I am afraid of many things, I am still trying to overcome them. One of the fears that has taken over my thoughts over the years, is the fear of Abandonment. I am not positive (still have to go get tests done and get real diagnosed if i do have it), but i believe that I have BPD (Borderline personality disorder) For many years I thought I just had severe depression. But I believe that is not the only case. I have trouble trusting people. I push people away. I have a hard time controlling my moods becuase of anxiety, and It is devestating. People with BMP is having fear of being left alone (abandoned), even if the threat of being abandoned is not real. This fear may lead to frantic attempts to hold on to those around you. Sometimes you may react to the fear of being abandoned by rejecting others first before they can reject you. I am strong enough now, (still, some days are harder than others and sometimes I feel like giving up.) But deep down I know I am getting better and better slowly everyday. It may take me years, But I know one day, If I keep faith and believe in myself, I can have that happiness I have always pursued. I want to help others and show them that If I can do it, they can do it too. One day I will be healed, and when that day comes, I will be ready for anything life throws at me.
-----Thank you mom and dad for never giving up and believing in me. Thank you Breyton Belazo for Helping me spiritually and letting me know that Heavenly father loves me and is still there for me. Thank you KJ Duwel For Helping me believe that there are people out there with a big heart. Loving, and so full of care. You are amazing. Thank you Amanda Nielsen for being a good friend. Supporting me and also helping me keep up with prayer and reading my scriptures. Thank you Katie Skinner for being there when I need a friend the most. Listening to my problems can get very boring and tiring, but you always have a listening ear and amazing advice. thank you Ivanna Sanchez for being there at one of the lowest points of my life. You watched when I was taken away years ago and you watched me grow. I will always be here for you girl. You are my twin for life. Thank you Praags for being the best Role models I could ever possibly have. You guys are so positive and you always know how to make me laugh. I love how close you guys are with eachother. And I love you all. Thank you Heavenly Father, for letting me go through what I have been through, so I will be able help the weak and strenthen and reach out to those in need. Thank you for giving me a great love for children. that one day I may be able to have one of my own. To love them with all my heart, and be there for them when life gets hard. Thank you for letting me meet all of these wonderful people I have thanked. because each and every one of them, made me the girl I am today.
“Do not let fear overcome your efforts. … Fear comes not from God but from the evil one. The adversary of all truth would put into your heart a reluctance to make an effort. Cast that fear aside and be valiant in the cause of truth and righteousness and faith. If you now decide that this will become the pattern of your life, you will not have to make that decision again.”
—President Gordon B. Hinckley, “Excerpts from Recent Addresses of President Gordon B. Hinckley,” Ensign, Jan. 1998, 72.
